Eventful 过大礼

We did out 过大礼 and 安床 on Sat. It was a super tiring and eventful day for us. 

Woke up bright and early to prepare the 嫁妆 and wait for J's arrival. He said he will be late so dad went to pick up sis from her night shift. Who knew that before dad came back J would arrive with his aunt and sis bearing the 聘金 and the cakes. And that dad would go and vote before coming back. We went ahead with the exchange without my dad but he managed to come back in the middle of the exchange. I forgot to take pictures of the 聘金 and 嫁妆 before the exchange. Only remembered to take pictures after we 安床-ed, which we did ourselves. Was perspiring like mad after we 安床. The weather on Sat was mad crazy hot!! I hope it will not be so hot this coming Sat but I also do not want it to rain.. Haha .. This bridezilla so demanding.

Our new bed installed with the 嫁妆 and the items needed for 安床

    What I was told to put in the potty: A pair of chopsticks, an angbao and a pair of clogs (I put in 2 cos they came together)

All in the potty waiting to be wrapped

 嫁妆 and 安床 stuffs

 Stuffs for 安床

Part of the stuffs for 嫁妆 

Headed over to my grandma's place to pray to our ancestors to let them know that I will be getting married. Kana lectured for some things that I had no control over by my aunt in front of a relative whom I have not met for donkey years.. I knew where she was coming from but I was an innocent party and I did not appreciate her lecturing me for something that I was innocent of in front of someone else. My mood was spoilt the whole day after. Mum had my aunties and uncles over for hotpot in the aftn to collect their cakes and also to gather together instead of them coming over the night before the wedding. I did not really enjoy myself because of what happened earlier. Still had to put on a happy face to have dinner with my MIL for mother's day dinner in the evening. Sometimes I really dun understand how come a happy occasion can create so many problems..


I will not be posting so frequently over the next 2 weeks.. Will be back to blog after my wedding .. Hopefully with photos of the day.. 

AD Preparation Progress

Yippee!! I have just struck off one more pressing issue on my To-Do List --> Helpers List

Wedding preps heating up again with 18 days to go. Gotta order cakes for 过大礼 this weekend in time for the ceremony next Saturday and buy a splitter for the projectors. 

Going to meet up with my Jiemeis for high tea this Sat to discuss on their duties, gate crash and AD schedule. Hope all goes well. I've also began to slowly moving my stuffs over to J's place. So many things to do and soo little time.. And this stuffy/runny nose is not helping matters ..

Met up with my PG last evening to go through the schedule with him. Was able to make some amendments to my schedule to have a better time management on that day. So brides to be please remember to meet up with your PG to go through your schedule. They will be able to advice on the timing required from their experience so that you avoid have to rush to certain things and have too much time for others..

Big Ticket Items Confirmed

It is 143 days to our wedding and we have finally confirmed the last of our big ticket items

-Photographer and Videographer
-MUA
-Possibly gowns too

We have also bought our lamps on Monday from Ikea.
I'm a happy girl!!

AD - Wedding Lamp

One of the items that we would have to get for our 过大礼 are Chinese Wedding Lamps to be placed at our bedside table. The significance of the lamps are to shower the couple with blessings and for them to have many sons.

Significance of Chinese Wedding Lamps

The Chinese culture revolves around auspicious sounding items and sons! In every Chinese wedding, the couple are always showered with blessings for them to have many sons to carry on the family name. Lamps in Chinese (“deng”) has a similar sound to sons (“ding”). So the symbolic gesture of lighting the wedding lamps signifies the addition of sons to the family. The brightness of the pair of lamps also symbolises a long and bright life ahead for the couple.

How Long Should I Light The Lamps For?

The wedding lamps are usually lit by the auspicious lady who installed the marriage bed or the parents. There are several variations to the custom on how long they should be kept lit for. Some say the lamps should be lit on the day of the bed installation and kept on until the wedding night. Other variations recommend for the lamps to be lit only before the wedding day and kept burning for 3 days and 3 nights after the wedding to illuminate the new couple’s life. Both variations are valid. However, if you have elders in the family you might want to check with them and follow their recommendations.

Source: http://myweddingplanningtips.com/

We didn't want to get the traditional oil lamps as we would only be using it on the wedding itself and will be kept in storage after that. Furthermore, it will be a fire hazard. We wanted something that is modern and functional yet would be acceptable by the elders. On our foray for furnitures a few weeks back at ikea, we chanced upon this beautiful, red Knubbig Lamp. It is red. It runs on electricity. It is chic and nice. It fulfills my criteria. We have decided to get a pair of this for our wedding once his mom gives the go ahead.